Monday, February 20, 2012

Ace spectrum

Because it shows up on my dash quite frequently and quite weirdly, if I am permitted to say so, I felt like I might just have to take a stance on it.

Shout if I offend you, please, but rest assured I have no intention of doing so.

Okay. I do not understand asexuality even a little bit. It just doesn’t make sense to me at all. I cannot, even if I try very hard, understand why someone would not feel any sexual attraction to anyone. I cannot comprehend it, I have no frame of reference for it. So, yes, it confuses the hell out of me and I am very often tempted to just think ‘oh, they just haven’t met the right person yet’ or something along those lines.

However. None of these mean that I will have to be an arse about it, call asexual people delusional or wrong or deny their existence.

I am confused about a lot of things, I do not understand a lot of things. Being confused and not understanding stuff is pretty much the definition and the standard state of being for humanity.

So, if you fall somewhere on the ace spectrum, I will probably ask questions that you might consider rude or ignorant, just because I honestly can’t wrap my mind around the idea. I will try my level best to be polite about it and I will try to listen to you and adjust my world view accordingly. If my questions offend you or feel to intrusive, feel free to tell me to shut it and go away. I’m just being curious, not trying to offend or challenge you.

If you do not fall on the spectrum, feel free to stop insulting people who do. Also, I might, despite being sexual myself, call you out on it if I feel you are being rude or prejudiced or simply a douchebag. However, if I do, I will always try to redirect you to someone who falls on the spectrum because while I can point out douchebaggery and ignorance, I can and will not speak for those on the spectrum because I lack any sort of understanding of it. If this offends you, feel free to ignore me.

If my stance on this offends you, feel free to tell me why, I will reconsider it upon suggestion.